Today, I challenge you to get curious! What does that mean? It means looking at both the good and not so great situations you’re in and figuring out how you got there. Asking questions about not only what you “did” but who are you “being”? What is working for you and isn’t? How can you shift to make things work for you instead of against you? This goes for things that are personally happening in your life and what’s happening in the world. What role are you playing? Are you making the world a better place or are you dragging people down with you?
When we ask these questions and give honest evaluations of ourselves, it’s important to look at it as neutral. We’re simply getting curious and learning. Almost looking at it as if we were looking in the mirror and seeing what we find. During this process get to stand responsible and own up to the part we’ve played up to this point. Have you open minded, willing, friendly, positive, patient, grateful, or have you been resistant, pessimistic, hurried, hard-headed, fearful, disagreeable, etc. Keep it light, learn from the past, and have grace for yourself. “Win or learn, I never lose.”
Once we’ve identified what’s gotten us where are, to commit to how it gets to be moving forward. We also get to forgive ourselves if needed with grace and simply learn from our past experiences. There’s no need to be judgmental or degrading of ourselves, just get curious as to how we got where we’re at.
Each time I take a trip for business or pleasure, I try to learn something about the area and the culture. This week, I have a booth set up at the All-American Youth barrel race in Jackson, Mississippi for RodeoKids.com and the Performance Pony Company. On this trip, we decided to check out the Mississippi Civil Rights Museum and the Mississippi History Museum. What an eye-opening experience!
Being from small town Iowa, geographically we’re pretty far removed from the scene of racism and civil rights for other ethnicities. With it being such a hot topic in the world lately, I’ve really gotten curious to what’s going on and after going through this enormous museum of Mississippi’s history, I realized how little I know and how little they teach us in schools. I also realized how easy it is to form opinions and judgements without realizing it. The views I have on these issues are predominately based on what I’ve heard on the news, what little they taught me in school and the opinions of the people in my community, who also haven’t been exposed to the culture, the civil rights movement or the people in general.
By getting curious, I’ve been able to open my mind, learn and have compassion. Too often, when we have deep seeded opinions that have been passed down for generations, our subconscious works really hard to prove we’re right. We don’t even realize how close minded we’re being. Sometimes it’s because we are trying to protect the thoughts and opinions of the people we care about, other because we don’t want to admit we’re wrong. We get to ask ourselves, is proving ourselves right, really serving us or the world?
No matter if it’s civil right across the country, a hometown debate, the rodeo association your family participates in or something happening in your personal life. Get curious to the role you’re playing with your thoughts and your actions. Get out a piece of paper, be honest with yourself and write down what’s happening. Ask yourself if you are acting and thinking genuinely or just to prove yourself right. Do your thoughts, words and actions line up with your beliefs?
When we surrender and shift into our authentic selves, I promise, the load will lighten and the path will become clear. As our thoughts, words and actions line up with our individual, genuine thoughts, the rest of our lives will align. It’s won’t make it easy, but it will make it clear.
Again, I invite you to get curious and let it be FUN!!! Allow yourself to learn and find humor in your history. And most importantly, share the lessons you’ve learned with others. Together, we can make the world a better place!